'Everyone’s memory of their high-school self includes some historical revisionism, but I don’t think I actually meant to be 'mean.' I wanted a laugh; I wanted to be right.'
“There are two kinds of people in the world,” says anyone who thinks they’ve made an incisive, singular observation about humanity at large. Here’s mine: There are people who stay fundamentally the same, and there are people who change.
Instead of internalizing the message to shut up, I pushed against it—hard. I also remember feeling tiny, in pain and aware that somehow I had to survive. I was still, of course, a beyond sensitive, highly emotional book nerd—which is, counterintuitively, optimal raw material for becoming a short-term bitch. Like other mean girls, I was mostly using the ice to protect my insides, which I knew were softer than peanut butter M&M’S in a hot car. I turned my empathy against itself: Being “nice” felt regressive and weak—what girls who wanted to please people aimed for.
I also knew by then that, like all women, I have access to enormous, inherent power and started to see how I’d been using it wrong— deconstructing without constructing anything better in its place. My power is a lot about how my wonder and genuine interest in people let me sort of see them and make them feel something: I send friends on blind dates with guys they end up marrying; I recommend a book that someone tells me changed their life; I introduce a colleague to their next mentor.
Meditation to address one’s anxiety should be a ubiquitous solution . The benefits of mindfulness meditation will reveal themselves to anyone who breaks their phone and for two days is as blissfully unencumbered as
Canada Latest News, Canada Headlines
Similar News:You can also read news stories similar to this one that we have collected from other news sources.
Why didn’t Disney just explain why it cut the sexist ‘Toy Story 2’ blooper?Getting rid of the end-credits blooper in which Stinky Pete sexually harasses a couple of Barbies is good. Doing it without acknowledging why is bad.
Read more »
9 Ways to Be There for Someone Who Survived a Horrible TraumaYour support can mean the world.
Read more »
Here’s What These Two Major Eclipses Mean for Your SignTwo eclipses in one month sounds scary, but don't panic.
Read more »
Fantasizing About Someone Else Doesn’t Mean Your Relationship Is DoomedIt’s natural to find people other than your partner attractive. And this, in and of itself, is not cheating
Read more »
https://people.com/Get the latest news about celebrities, royals, music, TV, and real people. Find exclusive content, including photos and videos, on PEOPLE.com.
Read more »
Vegetarians & Vegans Weigh In On The Best Meatless Burger OptionsGrilling up a good time doesn't have to mean meat-based burgers for all.
Read more »