A parent-to-be wants to “let go, take it easier, have more fun,” in lieu of a stressful house hunt before the baby comes.
Husband and I think it would be great to have a house before the baby comes and have started what feels like an all-consuming house search. Of course, the real estate market is off its rocker right now. I realized I am doing the thing I usually do: going into this intense, focused “must get house” mode. BLAH. Where is the fun in that? We can make our apartment work for a while.
I am looking for tips on how to let go, take it easier, have more fun and let this all work itself out instead of becoming the Type A zombie I tend to become. Also, like, what am I so afraid of? Why must it all happen now?Dig into this professionally, please. You don’t enjoy the pressure you put on yourself, you can’t ease it when you want to, you’ve got a child on the way who will be healthier if you learn to let go of some stress. Each alone is reason enough to seek counsel.
Learning to open yourself to the joy of randomness, meanwhile, is a long-term project you can start without therapy. Just start looking at situations through multiple lenses, till it becomes a habit. Superficial example: The party plan that goes sideways can turn out to be much more fun.Also look at your choices not as goals to meet, but as people, purposes, loves. A person cannot be a goal.
· Zombie can stop being so hard on herself for her Type A tendencies. If she is unhappy, that’s one thing. But if she’s happier when she’s working toward a goal, then it’s okay to just accept those parts of herself.
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