Asking for a friend 👫 | Why does my partner feel more like a roommate than a lover?
‘However, they’re living platonically, and there’s very little magic or romance in their relationship.’you’ve fallen into a little bit of a rut with your relationshipWhile it’s better than constant bickering and screaming matches, the roommate phase is far from ideal. In fact, it can lead toThe spark has died out – but you can get it back The roommate phase can creep in for a variety of reasons, from couples forgetting to prioritise their connection to a loss of attraction.
Although intimacy and sex has fallen by the wayside in this scenario, both partners are likely to still feel fulfilled by things outside of their relationship, like building their careers or enjoying their hobbies – and not to mention the relationship is still functional – so they’re willing to compromise.
‘They may like each other, but no longer love each other in the same way that they used to,’ says Rhian. ‘In this case, they’ve become avoidant of intimacy but they’re prepared to carry on as a couple because it feels like the right thing to do… or each partner doesn’t want to face the problem or hurt their significant other.’
Once you’ve recognised what phase you’re in, there’s no time for procrastination – you need to speak to your partner about why this might have happened.