A few of my friends act like they’re calling to make me feel better but then they won’t let me vent.
I am a woman marrying another woman, and some of my relatives object to same-sex relationships. Is there a proper way to notify them of the wedding without inviting them?
My brother’s family and my aunt and uncle all have clear qualms about queer relationships. I think they’d also be offended not to be invited. I would like to find the most gracious means to handle this.The most gracious thing would be to invite them, as this demonstrates trust that they are fundamentally decent and care about you as a member of their family first, putting any other opinions they may hold second.
But Miss Manners infers that past behaviors have convinced you that such trust would be misplaced, and that they will be unpleasant no matter what you do. Better, then, to omit them from the guest list and leave it at that. They will learn about the nuptials and can gnash their teeth without any action on your part.I invited a group to dinner at my home to celebrate the expected return of another friend from a long residence overseas.
Then I learned that several of the guests had a private conversation to set up an even better date for all of them as an alternative. I was not privy to this conversation until after they had decided on a new date — one on which I was not available to attend, much less host. In the meantime, the original invitation was still out there, though I now knew that most of the guests had planned another event. How should I have treated the original invitation?As your guests are likely as confused about the original invitation as Miss Manners, she suggests you call everyone to review the bidding. This will involve another round of calls, but will also give you the opportunity to appear gracious while making it clear that you have been cheated out of your plan.
Canada Latest News, Canada Headlines
Similar News:You can also read news stories similar to this one that we have collected from other news sources.
Miss Manners: Why is it rude to wash your hands in the kitchen?Plus: Trunk party? Gender reveal? We need less of this type of creativity.
Read more »
Miss Manners: With certain people, I am only invited to events that require giftsI’ve realized these people are complete users. How do I gently get away from them?
Read more »
Advice | Miss Manners: My stepmother-in-law is a menace at dinnertimeLetter writer wishes their husband’s stepmother would stop trying to help clean when she visits.
Read more »
Miss Manners: What’s a polite way to make sure I get the painting when she dies?I’ve told my friend more than once what I want. Can I tell her chidren as well?
Read more »
Miss Manners: How do I get my father-in-law’s wife to stop trying to help in the kitchen?I have asked her to please sit down, relax and enjoy the evening, and I’ve outright said I would prefer to do things independently in the kitchen.
Read more »
Stock Market Today: Dow loses ground after Home Depot sales miss; debt-ceiling talks awaitedMarketWatch Live: Stocks dip as Wall St.’s attention turns to debt-limit meeting
Read more »