Feeling unseen or unheard in childhood, research suggests, often leads to insecurity, depression, and unstable identity as an adult, as well as significant relationship challenges. Here's why.
Perhaps equally common is a tendency to overreact to stressors in their adult lives. This pattern is conditioned by caregivers who wind up inadvertently shaping their child’s extreme reactions to being invalidated where the child learns that emotionally overreacting is the only way they get their parent’s. The message the child is learning is that normal reactions will be dismissed or ignored while overreacting will receive attention, even if it’s negative attention.
Yet when a person is regularly invalidated in their childhood, a sense of safety, predictability, and reliability often wind up missing. The result is that relationships can emotionally trigger them in feeling dismissed and helpless.If we can't feel safe in our relationships, we can't trust ourselves or others in our lives.
Because emotional invalidation is typically learned and conditioned in childhood, these experiences can be repeated in our adult intimate relationships. Sadly, we may not be consciously aware of these patterns, especially if they feel “comfortable” and “familiar.” Some common red flags include:
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