In today's Dear Annie column, Annie Lane shares a letter from a reader whose only regret about ending her marriage is that she didn't do it sooner.
Her ex-husband hardly worked during the 23 years they were married, yet still found time to blame her for the woes of their marriage. Annie Lane shares her thoughts on the matter.
I stayed married to a man for 23 years. He worked for pay for five years out of those 23. He was “self-employed” most of that time and was incapable of following through on anything. I worked full time, took on all his “self-employment company debt,” paid off his student loans that were in default and paid our mortgage, which grew to consolidate the debts he was incurring so that I could keep us afloat. He told me if I was a better wife, then he would be a better husband.
I was 54 when I filed for a divorce, and because I waited so long, I have to pay him alimony for the rest of our lives. I’m saying that even with kids, it is not worth staying with him. My life is 180 degrees from where it was; I am thankful every day that I am out of that situation. Drop every excuse that you may give yourself to stay. Go and start a new life. -- Freedom“How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?” is out now! Annie Lane’s second anthology -- featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation -- is available as a paperback and e-book.
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