Widow keeps saying no, but neighbors insist she needs to get out of the house. She seeks advice from Ask Annie.
An introverted widow appreciates her neighbors' thoughtfulness but wishes they'd stop pushing her into social activities.I have been widowed for 1 1/2 years. I have well-meaning neighbors who want to include me in many social activities -- dinners out, movies, parties and meals at their homes.
The problem is that I am an introvert and have never enjoyed parties, movies or most social activities. I also have huge food allergies, which cause migraines. I prefer to be alone, as my husband and I always lived our lives. Being with people absolutely drains my energy. I am embarrassed by continually saying no, explaining that it is NOT personal to them. I just prefer my quiet lifestyle, occasional visits, but no meals or activities. How do I handle this? I appreciate their thoughtfulness but want no social activities. They are all extroverts and think I need help adjusting to being a widow. No -- I am an introvert. Please help!I am sorry for your loss.
It does show a bias that our world has toward extroverts, and your letter highlights just how special and insightful an introvert can be. I encourage you to read the book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain.
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