My wife doesn’t trust Alexis, and while I can’t blame her, I’m conflicted about what my next step should be.
I love my wife, but I also love Alexis as more than a friend, and I know she feels the same. What should I do next?You may love both of these women, but you are being fair to neither one. Your wife doesn’t trust Alexis because she senses something is wrong -- and she’s right. You and Alexis aren’t buddies; you are lovers. That you have confided it to friends “who think this is odd” means it is just a matter of time until your wife is in on the secret.
Your first loyalty should be to your wife. At the very least, you owe it to her to have an honest discussion with her and figure out WITH HER what the next steps should be.My husband and I have been going to the same dentist for 20 years. We have always had the same dental hygienist. There’s a computer in the room where she works, and she always schedules our next six-month cleaning with her before we leave.
Over the years, we have noticed that she’s not very clean. She is sometimes very unkempt -- with greasy hair and body odor. Her treatment room is also very messy. The last time I was there, she opened her cupboard, and I was appalled at the junk crammed in there. We are concerned that this is unsanitary and we no longer want to see her.
We love our dentist and the office staff. They are the nicest, most considerate and professional people. I would like to call and ask the front desk to reschedule our appointments with the other hygienist and include in our files that we only want to see that one. My husband thinks we should switch dentists. To be honest, I’m shocked the dentist would tolerate this, but he is a kind individual, and maybe that’s the problem. Any advice would be appreciated.You should have discussed this with your dentist years ago. Your concerns are valid. It is your right to be treated by another hygienist for the reasons you have stated. However, for your dentist’s sake, as well as your own, tell him exactly why you felt it was necessary to make the change.
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