DEAR ABBY: I have been with my husband for more than 30 years. We have no kids together, but he has three adult children from a previous marriage. All of them are in their 30s. He and his ex had a bad breakup, and she has never given up on him coming back to her.
In my opinion, he has strung her along. He buys her the moon and pretends our marriage doesn’t exist for the “sake of seeing the kids.” We used to be close, but since the pandemic I have learned he has been going to “their house” every day before he goes to work. He pays her mortgage and does everything there for her. I pay our house bills because he needs to “support her and the kids.”
I love him, but I have reached the point where I have no self-esteem. I have asked him more than once why he doesn’t go back to her. He tells me I am insecure and paranoid. Abby, I am a smart, successful woman, but I am afraid to give up what we had. I am also afraid of being alone. Am I overreacting about his closeness with her? What do I do? -- BEATEN DOWN AND FED UP
Start NOW to rebuild your sense of self-esteem by talking with a licensed mental health professional. Once you are stronger you will be in a better position to decide what you want to do. If you reread your letter, you will notice a glaring omission. Not once did you mention anything positive he does for YOU. There are worse things than being alone, and what you have described is close to it.DEAR ABBY: Our 14-year-old granddaughter came out as a boy four months ago.
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