Letter writer is reconsidering the terms of their brother borrowing their second car.
After a car accident last year, my older brother “Danny” was without a vehicle. Danny works full time from home, and so he decided not to replace his car and purchased an e-bike, which he uses for local errands.My husband and I have two cars, and rarely need the use of both during any given day. We are planning to sell our “second car” in a few months and want to keep the mileage low. After checking my insurance coverage, I offered my brother the use of my car for times when he might need it.
A few weeks ago, he borrowed the car to attend an event 120 miles away. He picked it up on Friday morning and returned it on Monday. I checked the mileage and discovered that the car had been driven nearly 500 miles. Allowing for the 250-ish miles round trip to and from the party, my brother somehow clocked an additional 250-ish miles. Checking the mileage made me feel petty, but my relationship with him is not one wherein I could easily address any of this with him.
If you’ve been planning to sell your car anyway, then I suggest that you skim over this awkwardness by putting your car up for sale. Name your price, list it, and see what offers you receive. If your brother wants to borrow it in the meantime and you don’t want to lend it, tell him that you’re keeping the mileage where it is and reducing wear-and-tear until it is sold.If your brother wants to purchase it, then he can make an offer.
They don’t call us or invite us to their house for dinner, ever. They don’t even call and ask us to meet at a restaurant. We only see them when we invite them to share holidays at our home, yet they show up 15 minutes before the meal is set to be served and never offer to chip in with any cleanup. I’ve expressed to my husband that I’m tired of hosting.My husband wants to continue, as this is the only time his family tries to spend any time with us or our two children.
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