'We’re a goal-driven society built on expectations nobody wants to knock down. Yet everyone has a hard time keeping up with them for fear of being seen as lazy. If you throw some ADHD in there, it’s damn near impossible to keep your head above water.'
Since we have communication devices at our fingertips at all times, the expectation is that we should instantly gratify those that are trying to reach us – whether it be through a phone,ing me doesn’t mean I need to stop what I’m doing to answer them.
ADHDers need space and a break from technology and people to recharge. Don’t be afraid to own that time, because it’s necessary and yours. You’ll hear a lot of complaining at first when you implement this one, but what a difference it has made in my stress levels.Cleaning. I’m probably the only person on earth that’s too lazy to get a housekeeper. I don’t want to have to deal with and/or make a commitment to someone for every other week of my life. On the other hand, I’m not one that thinks about the fact that baseboards need to be de-furred, so by industry standards for pre-conceived expectations of how a house should look, my furry baseboards would knock off a lot of points. This, in turn, would cause me to beat myself up when I did happen to notice it.
I wasn’t giving myself any points for the time I made to read to them every night, or the careful consideration and love I put into their every meal, or the energy it took to laugh at every knock-knock joke they told like it was the first time I’d heard it. In the end, knowing I couldn’t do it all the way I felt it should be done, I chose to change my expectations of myself about the admin part, so I could focus on being great at the “mom” part. Every day, on my kids’ faces, I can see it was the right way to go.What expectations are holding you back from feeling content? Look at what you expect from yourself and examine if that expectation is yours or a preconceived one that has been forced on you. If it’s not working for you, you can change it.
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