Many people find it easy to be compassionate toward others but struggle to be kind to themselves. Here's how to change that, by toni_bernhard
Quieting the inner critic is an act of self-compassion.Many people find it easy to be compassionate toward others but struggle to be self-compassionate. Compassion simply means being kind to yourself and others. To direct it at yourself, think of how you’d treat a loved one in need, and treat yourself that way.
And so, asking for help is a skill that most of us need to develop. Try it at first with small “asks,” and when you do, think of it as evidence of self-compassion. This way, your ability to ask for help will get easier and easier. For more on this, see my post “You are not a self-improvement project! You are a human being with flaws just like the rest of us. In the words of Zen teacher Cheri Huber: “You are taught that there is something wrong with you and that you are imperfect.
A quick way to switch gears from self-criticism to self-compassion is to remember the words of Theodore Roosevelt: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” I keep these six words on the night table next to my bed. Why there? Because it’s when I’m tired at the end of the day that I start to think that I need to fix myself: “He always looks happy in his Instagram photos; I should be happy all the time.” Or, “Look at everything she’s doing; I need to start doing more instead of being so lazy.
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